DATING

If you listen to the 8/4/2011 episode of FFR , you know that the topic of the night was DATING. i got a lot of feedback from listeners because they felt like our guest didn't express what women really want as far as dating is concerned. .. so i'll compile all the feedback i got into this blog and sprinkle a few of my opinions in there along the way.


Personally i feel like MEN in today's society don't know how to date and WOMEN have very high standards. most of the time when you ask a women what makes a man date worthy, she will say :

1. NO KIDS
2. NICE JOB
3. NICE CAR
4. NICE SIZE BANK ACCOUNT
5. DECENT CREDIT
6. INDEPENDENT
7. EDUCATED

the list goes on...

But a lot of the times women who are screaming that they want all of these things, cant meet these standards themselves. How can you say you want a man with no kids when you have 2 or 3 of your own? How can you want an "independent" man when you live with your parents, or you have a roommate? in my personal opinion i feel, like whatever you are asking of someone else to bring to the table you need to be bringing to the table as well.. Don't expect a 5 -star man when your a 3-star chick.

To expect a man to take you to an overly expensive restaurant on the first date.. umm hell no, what makes you think that your worth it on the first date. LET'S FACE FACTS .. the first date is simply to get to know that person, and who the hell told you that getting to know you was worth an expensive meal, you might be boring as hell and not even worth APPLEBEES HAPPY HOUR and just because a man does not want to take you to an expensive restaurant on the first date does not mean he can not afford it... he just doesnt want to spend it a women he barely knows.

Dating is a two way street, yes a lot of the responsibility will fall on the man, but damn ladies don't expect the man to do absolutely everything. Its ok if you plan a date for a man every now and again, its not absolutely unheard of.. and dont expect a man to take to you a restaurant and spend X amount of money, that you wouldn't spend on him.. wtf.. what makes you think this man wants to spend money on a girl that wouldn't do the same for him.. WHOMP.

I have realized that alot of the women who have these outlandish standards are manly the ones who flood twitter with the *niggas aint shit/ niggas are all the same* tweets. alot of the lonely tweets come from them. not saying that those in a relationship dont have standards because thats absolutely not the case, but most of the time if your in a relationship you understand that it's a give and take situation.

Girls who act stuck up are like challenges to men, they want to see if they can get this snooty chick into them, once they get the drawls and the chick starts to get into him, they quit that particular chick, and the girl is slightly salty ... * cue the niggas aint shit tweets*


The concept of dating is so far gone, in my opinion everyone needs to go back to the original concept, meet someone and get to know them. Its not always about the physcial attraction its about getting to know someone and seeing if they could possible meet your qualifications for a lifemate. if you go on a few dates with someone and you realize they arent the one for you no problem... just move on.. its not about the amount of money that was spent or the gifts that were purchased.. because in reality all of those material things mean absolutely NOTHING.

- THE YOUNG BLACK SOCIALITE