As authentic as we as claim to be, we all are players of the game of some sort.
Our different personalities within ourselves will bring out a different representative for each situation that we find ourselves in. Social settings will mold you into a different person that will change as drastic as the January temperature in Ohio. You can know one man, and ask 7 different people to describe him and each one will be as different as the days of the week.
He can be the MAN in a social setting as far as clubs… or he can be the meek Church boy… or he can be the angry babydaddy to someone. Each personality we inhibit come out when we want them to. It’s all a game.
Men and women always are their best versions of themselves the first 30 to 60 days for courting someone. Our etiquette, our tone, our visual presentation is at it’s zenith. GAME. We remember certain dates, keep receipts of special dates, send good morning/night texts. GAME. We are more ambitious, more open for new things, and more expressive. GAME. All up until that “seal” is broken.
Ladies will wear that favorite type of outfit that you said you like on twitter when you were doing the #30FavoriteThings and guys will buy that one bottle of cologne that you always seem to swoon over when just the name of it is brought up. We watch those tweets. We know what you like and we are taking notes. It’s all a part of the game.
We all know the art of dating is lost, but chivalry isn’t completely dead. The thing that kills it is the lack of respect for it. Too many “Miss Rights” going for “Mr. Wrong”. Then the chivalrous nigga will see this and be like WTF am I doing all this for? That’s when things change. Every nigga has been smoked by a female that he was tryna romance because she wanted the thrill of some grimier nigga. Ladies, knowing this, you have to figure out which guy you are dating. We all have both guys in us, you just have to figure which one are you speaking to. Knowing this, handle with care. You will be affecting many lives down the road. If you handle that good man maturely, rather it be “friend zonin’” or taking to the next level. You will be doing the world a great service. Now if you spin that nice guy, you are spawning one of the niggas you currently complain about.
Then when it comes to guy when you’re dating these women, treat each one different. The same things don’t work on each woman. Learn them and make each experience special. Be aware though. 95% of the time, you aren’t the only nigga at her, regardless of what she says or how lonely her tweets might sound on a Saturday night. Knowing this, take them off that pedestal and give them the real and direct you. That way they can either take it or leave it. You never wanna hear the babe say “Oh you liked me? You shouldda told me, I always thought you were cute.” While she is now in a relationship with some other dude. Now you are living in Marvin’s room.
It’s all a game though. Either she keeps you around because she sees your potential or this cold weather got her wanting to be warmed up by more than a body pillow. This is something that only she knows. You just have to be ready to play your position when your number is called or change teams. A real indirect nigga will keep a bench warm. So learn that if you aren’t sending those right signals, you will end up in purgatory quicker than you can spell “bestie”. You don’t want that. Male or female. So even if you need that liquid courage. Shoot that thrist, just so you can AT LEAST establish your motives. Allow the person being courted to have the chance to know which way to go. Either way, you will get results. If its not the one you want, use it as motivation to get better to show them what they are missing out on. If it’s the good result, then you can just thank me later.
-@DJDURL
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